Women are very vulnerable especially when it comes to matters of the heart. It subjects us to situations we never imagined ourselves to be caught in. It can put our guard down unknowingly even if we have been very careful with it.
One of my friends at work shared this through email. I'm not sure where he got this but I think this is quite enlightening for those who have been trapped in relationships where they can no longer move on because it became their comfort zone already. Yes, it will always be scary to start all over but how will we know if we don't try and see what's in store for us. It's like we can't received what God has in store for us because we are scared to let go of what we have right now in our hands.
I'd like to thank Chad for this piece of article he shared with us.
The reason you still can’t stop loving that person although you know that you can’t have him/her is that your subconscious mind didn’t fully accept what happened.
Acceptance can only happen when the subconscious mind makes sure that the event is irreversible. Most people who want to stop loving someone prevent themselves from accepting the fact that they can’t have him/her by doing the following:
1-Visualizing the good old memories
2-Keeping all the things that reminds them of him/her (text messages, e-mails.. etc)
3-Never confront the person directly and so keep the door open for hope
All of these practices keep hope present and as a result prevent acceptance from happening. If you want to stop loving that person you should first accept what happened by confronting him/her and making sure that she/he has no intentions to resume the relationship.
The second thing you should do is deleting the mails, the text messages and removing everything that reminds you of him/her. Preventing yourself from thinking about him/her is another very important task, I know that sometimes thoughts flow involuntary, but at least you can prevent these involuntary thoughts from growing bigger. All of these actions will convince your subconscious mind that its over and so you will be able to stop loving him/her.
One of the things that can prevent you from stopping to love someone is thinking that this person was the one.
If you think that way then ask yourself a question, is there anybody else on earth who is better than him/her? Even if you didn't find any then this doesn't mean that there isn't a better person that you didn't meet yet. Definitely he/she is the not the best person in the world else everyone would have loved him/her. Instead of feeling sad or down promise yourself that you will find someone better than him/her. This will help you get rid of the false belief that he/she is the best person in the world and so it will help you stop loving him/her.
One of the most powerful ways to convince your subconscious mind to believe in something is repetition. The more you repeat the fact that the relationship is over the more this statement is likely to turn into a solid belief. If you want to stop loving someone then prevent yourself from repeating these phrases or from even thinking about them:
I can’t live without him
I can’t stop loving him
He is the only one I loved that much
Now having read that, the earlier you start moving on, the more chance for you to save yourself from further heartache. Open your heart to greater blessings.