Sunday, November 13, 2011


I woke up yesterday with this thought in mind. The perspective article have been long waiting to be published. I should have finished it earlier. Now I thought a disclaimer is a better alternative. We cannot control how people see things, but at least we can prove our point.

The blog aims to inform, educate and share. It aims to enlighten too but I do not expect much. For enlightenment only comes to those who have open mind and hearts. It is limited only to those who welcome change and ready to embrace a new life.

I never preached in my blogs. I post favorite quotes or bible passages but I never dare to explain because It was never my intention to stir a debate. I only trust the message as I understood it from my heart. I regard the message as a reminder for me but who knows, somebody might just be needing it too. That's why I share. I'm open to all kinds of faith and I ask a lot of questions but I don't dare create a diversion. After all what's important is we believe that there is somebody up there who loves us and is watching over our every decisions.

If you will read without bitterness, I regard my God as my friend, my shock absorber, my only hope, my only rescue, my adviser and my constant guide. That's what my reflections are for. I do not claim nor use God to portray myself as a good one because all those reflections claims my mistakes in life and how God pull me through it.

I'm not a perfect person but I'm struggling to be one by not hurting others as much as possible. But I won't tolerate people who tries to push me to the limit.

The world doesn't revolve with just one person. My world is too big to share love with. If you feel a pinch in your heart, that means it's a wake up call.

Now the questions below every post is a reminder to those who have been enlightend. Will they act on it or not? Because enlightenment doesn't end with just a thought. It needs action to make it work.

Thank you for the readers who keeps on visiting the blog. I'm returning the favor by giving you more informative and productive activities to do.

God bless you.

Friday, November 11, 2011

Scared to be single?

Top 10 Reasons Why It's Cool to be Single

  1. You have more time for God, yourself, your family and friends. This is so true. I had more time to travel with friends, more bonding time with the kids, more time to learn new stuffs like baking and more time to attend church. 
  2. You have the absolute freedom to accomplish the things that you're supposed to do alone---your MISSION. Without distractions, I was able to join more charitable projects.
  3. You can go out more often to raise God's banner to the ends of the earth. 
  4. You can be more open to God's great plans for your life. Yes and more open to God's blessings.
  5. You can discover new things about yourself. Haha, more "ME" time! 
  6. You can travel the world without depending on someone's schedule. No waiting time. :)
  7. You can explore things fearlessly.  No sick partner to attend to or hinder your enthusiasm during physical activities.  
  8. You can go out with friends (male/female) without asking someone's permission. I can always meet new friends without worrying for a jealous partner. 
  9. You can really prepare for your  exciting future. And I'm always excited!
  10. You can be the best that you can be while waiting for your ONE TRUE LOVE. Time flies so fast you'll just know when he's there and you'll just immediately say YES, I'm giving my commitment. :) 

my butterfly is ready to fly away 
Looking back, I remember myself enjoying this kind of freedom without even realizing it.  It's  really nice when you have a mindset different from the crowd. You don't get to be carried away by the wave.  

This is a repost from my friend Apple's blog.  She gave me permission to post this as we have once talked about being single and how it's like to be free. I'm sure anybody who is too dependent on someone will never relate to this topic unless they have the strength to move on and embrace the real benefits of being free and single and if they have the courage to open up to more of  God's blessings. 

Scared to be  single? 

Thursday, November 10, 2011

From what feels good, back to what is good

I have a  seatmate from office who is my constant reminder that the path I was trekking was actually the right one. I remember a status I posted on my FB page:
I've been blessed with friends who are really funny, but still, YOU-> dear Lord, got the craziest sense of humor! Imagine me everyday squeezed in between my temptation and a person who reminds me of the path I was once trekking. You got the best timing, as always! :)
It was really a funny set up. The temptation holding my hand the whole time while Apple talks about love and God. Now I realized, that even if my hands were loved the whole time, my attention is still on what Apple has to say because I've been there. I know that familiar feeling of lightness that envelopes me everyday and I missed it. In my heart that's where I want to be.

I was temporarily distracted. I must have been blinded by my mission to share optimism and kindness to a lost soul. I felt I had to do something. I was very careful not to hurt anybody especially a lonely one. I've tried to share the inspirational books I've been reading, the subscriptions on my emails were constantly forwarded to enlighten and inspire, and my good examples as a person should be enough to rediscover life and its goodness.

In the end, however good our intentions may be, there will still be people who will choose to stay on the lonely road. I remember one conversation I had with this person about God and the end of the world. That person said he would rather wait and watch for it to happen than to struggle doing the right thing for in their faith everything will eventually be wiped out. I thought I could lead the person to at least make an effort to do good things but it turns out the person doesn't really care about others. He's not even connected to his family's social network.Or maybe it's not his.

We used to plan on having bible conversations the whole day.  I now wonder how he used to be as a preacher. Bless his soul.

How do you plan on saving your soul?

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Music for Mom

Last Saturday, I had a chance to support a very noble cause initiated by the children for their mom. Aside from the yearly charitable visits we do for the orphanage, these are the kind of events I frequent with. I am very lucky to have friends like Alex and Chad who are always there for support. They are one of my male friends whom I consider very close to my heart. It was a fun night with different kind of music played by several bands whom Pat and Alex are friends with.

The fund raising event was for Patricia's mom who underwent surgery and would need more help for the medical expenses. Their mom must have been pretty special to deserve such love and effort from her children.

I remember my mom when she was hospitalized several years back, my sisters and I have alternately searched for ways to shoulder the bill for the hospital and medications. It was really a very challenging time in our life. But during those times will you realize how good our parents must have been to have raised such loving and responsible children. It is the time when you'll realize how your mother have raised you to be the kind of person who can get past through any struggle. It was the time where we really felt how close we are as a family and how we really care for each other. It was the most depressing time of our life but it definitely made our bond stronger and defined. It was the time that Mom has to let go and have let us fly on our own.

with real good friends Alex & Chad

I have several share of Mommy moments where I felt confirmation that what I'm currently doing as a mom is right and cool. There was this time me and my boys were playing in the playpen I personally designed in my father's house. A girl aged 9 or 10 was watching me and the boys play and enjoy each other. She then approached me and said "I wish you were my mom." I smiled back and let her join us. Her mom was just near us busy talking with her friends. My youngest sister often commented on how she loved being at home because she loved what I cook and bake. Some friends and office mates have expressed how cool it would be like to have me as a sister or a mom. I'm just sharing what I'm good at and that is nurturing. I don't have much money but I have lots of friends who treats me like a family and a family who treats me like a friend. I guess what you give just eventually goes back naturally

what goes around comes around...

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Chocolate chip muffins

This chocolate chip muffin is one of my very first experiment when I was just starting to learn how to bake. My friend from grade school who is now based in Dubai shared this recipe and I was inspired to do this for my boys who are so fond of chocolates. I was so surprised at how easy it is to bake this. It was definitely a hit at home.

Chocolate Chips Muffin

2 cups flour
1 tbsp baking powder
1/8 tsp ground cinnamon
1/2 tsp salt
1 bag chocolate chips
1/2 cup milk
1/2 cup melted unsalted butter
2 tbsp sour cream
2 eggs
1/2 tsp vanilla
1/3 cup white sugar
1/3 cup brown sugar

1. Pre-heat oven to 200 degrees Celsius. Line a 12 cup muffin tin with muffin cups.
2. In a small bowl, mix together flour, baking powder, cinnamon, and salt. Set aside.
3. In a separate bowl, toss the chocolate chips with half a cup of the mixed dry ingredients and make sure the chocolate chips are coated with the mixture.
4. Mix together butter, milk, eggs, vanilla, the brown and the white sugar. Mix well until everything is combined together. Add the dry ingredients mixture.
5. Then add the chocolate chips to the batter mixture. Use a spatula to fold in all the ingredients.
6. Put the batter in each of the prepared muffin tins with the use of an ice cream scooper.
7. Bake for 18 - 20 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in the middle of the muffin comes out clean.
8. Let it cool for 5 minutes and serve.

Ling is a dear friend since grade school, in our Alma mater who made a difference in shaping my faith. We started with SSMMAALL, a group name combining  all of our initials. We eventually acquired new friends and the friendship circle just got bigger. Now, we are classmates again in Jomar's Internet Marketing class. This used to eat much of my time requiring me to stay glued on my computer for hours.  It was worth it.  It's always fun learning something new.

You can check out her blog at Quickandeasybaking .

Have you learned something new today?

Thursday, November 3, 2011

Beyond physical needs

One of our fave past time in the office is exchanging thoughts and views through email thread. Last month's topic was about love, courtship and marriage. One catalyst was this quote forwarded by Kara .

This one was the description of love from  the movie Captain Corelli's Mandolin:

When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away...

Physical intimacy takes time to sync in and true love doesn't dwell on that. We cannot deny that it's part of every relationship but the main focus should not be on that alone but on the person you are having relationship with. If we are able to bring out the best in each other, that I think would be the best standard of having a commited relationship. That's pure love.

"The best relationships are between two people who care more about each other’s good than their own momentary pleasure." (I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Joshua Harris)

Do you know what love is?