Thursday, November 3, 2011

Beyond physical needs

One of our fave past time in the office is exchanging thoughts and views through email thread. Last month's topic was about love, courtship and marriage. One catalyst was this quote forwarded by Kara .

This one was the description of love from  the movie Captain Corelli's Mandolin:

When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away...

Physical intimacy takes time to sync in and true love doesn't dwell on that. We cannot deny that it's part of every relationship but the main focus should not be on that alone but on the person you are having relationship with. If we are able to bring out the best in each other, that I think would be the best standard of having a commited relationship. That's pure love.

"The best relationships are between two people who care more about each other’s good than their own momentary pleasure." (I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Joshua Harris)

Do you know what love is?

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